Parenting With Love & Raising Great Kids

Becoming mother of an amazing, adorable, annoying, hyperactive and a super hilarious daughter was the luckiest thing that ever happened to me. There is not a single day that goes by, where me and my daughter don’t fight or love each other, but still I praise the heavens for blessing me with this unbelievable gift.

If you have ever gazed into the eyes of your daughter and wondered how you got so lucky, then you will definitely enjoy reading this post.

The Mommieeee Experience

I remember days with my daughter when I had no time to cover up my gray roots, no time to wash them, my dress and my shoes won’t match or my nail polish would have had chipped. That’s how I roll, these days.

I do dress up for the occasional night parties with my husband or my friends, but I’d much rather love wearing my favorite lousy pajamas, while being curled up on the not-so comfy bean bag watching Once Upon A Time series on Netflix, knowing that my little girl is tucked in the bed, snoring to the glory.

Though I am a little particular about keeping my house clean and at times I become a lazy housekeeper too, but I always make sure that my house is filled with love and laughter all the time.

I am not a great cook either, but I love cooking occasionally. I love cooking for my little girl, despite of she making faces for everything that she eats.

I am the official chauffer to my daughter. I am imperfect. I laugh at stuff I shouldn’t sometimes. I loose my cool and even use bad words at times. I would have watched hours of TV, ignoring my kid. Some days, I feel guilty of not giving her enough time and other days I just can’t wait to get away from her. I referee her arguments daily. Sometimes I secretly root for her, when someone else scolds her for doing things wrong. And most importantly, I need a time-out quite often. But that’s OK!!!

Some days I don’t like her, but I love her everyday, every second of every hour. She is my world.

There is nothing called a perfect parent and a perfect child. Parenting is futile. All of us keep trying to be perfect parents or raising the children perfectly. But, go back and think of the days when you were a kid and misbehaved or did bad stuff. How did your parents deal with it?

Perfect Parenting or Flexible Parenting – Making The Right Choice

Ideal father and mother who raised happy, well behaved, problem-free children is a myth. There is nothing called perfect parenting.

Every parent deals with behavioral problem, which takes up significant amount of parent’s time. You and me will also deal with such traits that would be at some point of time, difficult to deal with, like complying with simple requests, spending time watching TV, engaging in sibling fights, avoiding household chores or even difficulty finishing homework. But it is absolutely normal to feel worried, angry, overwhelmed or guilt, because we are parents and we always want the best for our kids.

All parents and all children make mistakes in communicating and dealing with one another. But, living for your children can sometimes put you in a very vulnerable position, which can leave you disappointed, frustrated and even resented.

The key to this problem is flexible parenting. The thumb rule is that you should not expect to receive fulfillment from your children or your parenting role. From your regular activities, you need to look for other sources of love and nurturing. And most importantly, you need to take a break from child and parenting responsibilities.

As a parent, you need to develop your own philosophy within a flexible and adaptable framework. You should take into account your expectations, parenting style and temperament and every attribute should fit your children. In case of secondary difficulties, when problems exceed your coping capabilities, you can always seek professional help.

Along the way, you must trust your instincts and keep your sense of humor up, as parenting will be the most challenging yet rewarding and enjoyable experiences of your life. You should take comfort in the fact that in most cases, children do turn out well.

I might sound cheesy, because I am a mother of a funny, messy, loud and whole lot of wonderful daughter, but I am worthy of being her mom. She reminds me to slow down, laugh and be silly again, despite of some challenging parenting days. It’s time to celebrate the gift of parenting.